In the previous post, we discussed the popularity of Minecraft and dating in this game. If you missed the article, you should really check it. There were so many interesting safety points inside! Today, we go on speaking about Minecraft in Asia and how it influences people’s relationships and dating.
What to do if your boyfriend spends too much time playing Minecraft?
The stats show that an average Minecraft user is a 24-year-old man. And not all Asian girls are that happy that Asian countries constitute the biggest market for Minecraft players. Taking into account that an average player spends five hours in the game daily, this game can become a true killer of relationships.
He spends less time on you. He doesn’t want to go outside. He quickly stops a phone call, or you can even hear him hitting the keyboard while you are sharing really important things over the phone.
Many girls would agree to the fact that Minecraft is an addiction for adult players. They say that men flee from reality to this imaginary world just to feel the satisfaction that they can’t get offline. Life today puts too much pressure on people and, for some of us, hiding in the fake reality is the only way to survive and find the forces to wake up tomorrow and go to work.
Well, that’s all nice to know, but what to do if you are exactly that girl whose boyfriend is lost in Minecraft?
Step 1. Compassion
First, you need to understand that this is really a very addictive thing. Don’t try it if you don’t want to play it yourself for the next 6 months (just, joking). Second, try to look at the positive sides that the game brings to your relationship. You have more time for yourself. And your boyfriend has a legitimate place to get rid of stress and get positive emotions.
Step 2. Be fair
It might be that Minecraft is his hobby that irritates you. It also might be that some of your hobbies irritate him, say, watching Korean series with cute boys. You need to be fair in your judgment. As long as both of you still have time for each other, it is normal to have hobbies.
Step 3. Discuss
You need to understand and then share your concerns. The best option for a couple is not to block someone’s hobbies but to address concerns and fears that come with them. Are you afraid that he will lose his job? Are you scared that he loves you less than a game? Discuss it!
Step 4. Find a compromise
Try to negotiate the number of hours in a day that both of you consider reasonable for playing. Together, you can find a way to balance your interests and find time for each other and other hobbies and activities. What’s important is to discuss everything openly and with respect to your partner.
Step 5. End a relationship
If you are 100% against his playing Minecraft, it might be that you are not a very nice match for each other. It makes no sense to change people the way you want them to be. In reality, it means that you have been loving all this time the fake image you created in your head rather than a real person. So, don’t make both of you unhappy if you are not ready to tolerate his hobbies and discuss this topic openly.
How to persuade your girlfriend to play Minecraft with you?
And what if you are exactly the one who likes playing Minecraft and needs to persuade your bae to play with you? The solution is similar. As in the previous question, you need to try to understand the concerns of your partner and address them. And of course, you need to find a balance between Minecraft and other activities. What to do next?
Step 1. Try playing together in general
First, you can take playing out of Minecraft. You can play another game or table games if she likes them. If your partner doesn’t specifically like Minecraft without ever trying it, it will be way easier for you to persuade her if you start a bit from a distance and show her that playing, in general, helps you receive stress and spark the imagination.
Step 2. Discuss games
You can start discussing the games of your childhood to evoke her inner child. Talk about how much fun it was to play anything when you were small. You can try recalling some of those memories playing a bit these days.
Step 3. Try playing together as a couple
Ask her to play Minecraft with you. If her major concern is that she feels lonely, play together with her. In the end, a game can become one of the activities that you share.
What’s important is to respect her boundaries and interests. Instead of pushing, try to make her interested in your common activity and this can bring great results.